Who Decides When You Are Old? You Do!

Who Decides When You Are Old?    ~   You Do!

How old are you? No not your calendar age, how old do you act, feel, your attitude these are the things that will govern your desire to live to 100

Tradition views, general consensus, custom, friends, the media all conspire to the outdated mode of three score and ten. Yet we now know that 70 can be the start of a golden future.

Until recently tradition and culture have established how you ought to be at a given age and most fall into line. Too many seem unaware of this influence, but you don’t deliberately have to adopt old thinking and behaviours.

I will live to 100

I will live to 100

How fast or how well you age is all in the mind..

Its how you decide to behave.

Its your attitude about life.

Its how you feel about yourself.

Its about what you think is possible.

Its about what you think is important.

Briefly, it comes down to choices you make about how you live your life. However, there is more to it than that.

For example, society tells us that about age 65, you are a senior citizen. If you accept that categorization of yourself at age 65, you will experience oldness signs far earlier than necessary. That’s because acceptance carries with it adoption of approved oldness thinking and behaviours.

Close friends who have fallen into line reinforce old thinking and behaviours. We learn from each other without being aware of it.

It does not have to happen.

Remember, controlling old age begins in your head. Regardless of friends or cultural influences, you can march to your own drummer.

It may not be easy if belonging is important to you, or if being different is difficult for you, but you can control oldness influences.

Instead of becoming a senior (or whatever word describes or categorizes people beyond age 65), you can remain an ageless mature woman or man in a constant state of growth. You don’t need to be in a category.

Its absurd to call anyone at age 65 old. It may have been appropriate 50 years ago, but it no longer makes sense.

Consider that in 1950 there were possibly 2,300 centenarians. Today there are over 40,000. By 2050 there will be close to a million people 100 years of age or older. We are living longer that’s a fact. So why cling to horse-and-buggy thinking that results in limitation of your potential? 

Why do we continue to relegate people at age 65 to all the old baggage that goes along with it?

You don’t have to succumb to tradition, conventional wisdom, or whatever you want to call it. You don’t have to see yourself or accept yourself as old because society says you are old.

The bottom line: You can triumph over oldness, regardless of your age, if you take control of what goes on in your head, and challenge antediluvian attitudes, thinking and behaviours that no longer make sense.

Our monthly free newsletter shows how you too can keep a young attitude to life. Even more information is available in our monthly (paid) magazine.

Further reading can also be found with Barbara Morris’s book Put Old on Hold.

Curated from Barbara Morris R.Ph

Beginners Guide to Blogging

A blog is basically an online journal wherein you can digitally pen down your thoughts, ideas, opinions and practically anything that you want people to read. Blogs come in different styles, formats, and settings, depending on the preference of the user. Many blogging sites, offer built in features such as hyperlink, straight texts, pictures etc. Some blogging sites, even allow you to put video and mp3s on your blogs.

Blogs are an ideal way for us ‘olduns’ to develop ideas and connect with others in our age group.

Instead of writing texts, some bloggers choose to make their blogs more audio friendly, by using spoken word entries. This is called audio blogging.

Basically a blog contains these features:

title- which allows you to label your post
body- this is the content of your post
trackback- other sites can be linked back to your blog
permanent link- every article that you write has a URL
comments- this allow readers to post comments on your blog.

One of the advantages of blogging, is that it is made of only a few templates. Unlike, other websites that is made up of numerous individual pages. This make it easier for blog users to create new pages, because it already has a fix setting that include: slots for title, body of the post, category, etc.

This is especially useful for first time users, since they can start blogging right away. They can chose from a number of templates that blogging websites provide.

Anyone who wants to start a blog can do so by becoming a member of a blogging website of their choice. Once they have become members, they automatically become a part of that particular blogging community. They can browse through other bloggers pages, and link them back to their own blogs. They can also make comments on other members blogs.

Blogging is not just limited to personal usage. There are a lot of blogs that follow a theme such as: sports, politics, philosophy, social commentary, etc. These blogs espouse on their specific themes. This way blogging becomes a medium in which people can share their knowledge and opinions about a variety of themes and topics.

Some bloggers even use their blogs as a means to advertise. Some authors advertise their books on their blogs. While other bloggers, use their blogs to shed light to currents issues, events, news and catastrophes.

Nowadays in education, blogs also play an important part. Professors use blogging to document the lessons that they have discussed and taught. This way, students who who have missed classes, can easily catch up with their assignments.

A lot of entrepreneurs benefit from blogging by promoting their businesses on their blogs, with millions and millions of people logging onto the net everyday, blogging has become a lucrative move. Some bloggers who run online businesses promote their merchandise online. While others profit through advertisement.

So for us we can possibly use it to supplement our income.

But by far, the most popular blog type is the one that takes the form of a personal journal. This is the kind that is usually used by first time bloggers. Individuals who want to document the daily struggle of their everyday lives, poems, rants, opinions, find that blogging offers them a medium in which to express themselves.

Bloggers usually communicate within themselves. This is one of the appeals of blogging. It creates a community of people sharing their ideas, thoughts, and comments with each other.

Blogs varying in topics, themes, and set-ups, can be found in blog directories. First time users who want to get an idea of what the blogging world is all about can browse through a number of blogs using these directories. This way theyd get an idea of what these blogging communities are like.

Blogging is popular all over the world. Blog is short for the term weblog. There are no rules when it comes to blogging. Bloggers have the freedom to express themselves how ever way they want, and the best thing about blogging, is that most blogging sites are free.

There are numerous blogging websites to choose from in the net. This give first time users the option of joining a blogging community that appeals to their interests.

Just search any blogging directory and you’d get a listing of a lot of blogging sites that are available on the net. Its easy to search a blogging directory, because it is organized according to category. This way you would get exactly what you are after. Blogging is really for everyone. It is fun, simple and easy.

Yet another reason to investigate our magazine!

Women and Retirement.

Women and Retirement.

Are you taking your retirement seriously?

Over the next twenty years it is estimated that more than 40 million women will reach retirement age.

Many of these women will have no savings, retirement plan or other monetary resources to help them enjoy the “golden years.”

If baby boomers and Gen X’ers are counting on Social Security or other government assistance to get them through, the golden years may not be so golden. 

Complacency maybe the greatest obstacle women face when planning for retirement.

Are you saving enough?

Have you thought out and planned for your retirement?
Do you know financially what you’ll need for your retirement years?
Do you know the options available to help you save for retirement?
Are you currently saving for your retirement?

Many of us don’t want to think about retirement. Why? It usually means we’re contemplating our “twilight years” of life. The unknown can be frightening. Think of retirement as another phase of life. It’s not something to be feared but one to be embraced. That’s why planning and preparing for retirement is so important.

Preparation helps take the fear out of the unknown.

Building your retirement income takes time. The sooner you begin, the more you’ll have when you want it. Procrastinating means you’ll have to save more in a shorter length of time. Taking control of your financial future begins one step at a time. Are you ready?

Think out and actually write down how you want to live during retirement?

I’ve heard it said that we often take more time planning a vacation than we do our retirement. It’s time to look into your crystal ball and visualize the future.

Making the time to practically and emotionally write out your “ideal” retirement scenario is a vital part of making it reality. It’s important to see and feel the excitement of retiring comfortably. The more passionate you become about living an ideal retirement life, the greater the commitment you’re willing to make toward saving for that future.
womens pension

Start Becoming specific about the amount of money it will take to live your “ideal” retirement scenario.

It’s time to plan what it’s going to cost to live in retirement. What is it specifically going to take to maintain the financial lifestyle you’ve envisioned? more…

Special times with Grandchildren

There never seemed enough time when we were growing up with our own children. But now we do have that time and patience to spend with them without one eye on the clock!

If your grandchildren spend most of their days in nurseries or school they may have very little chance for extended conversation with adults so we have a wonderful role of talking and listening to them at length.

At home their parents may be too busy a lot of the time to talk to them in any depth. You can though. So take every chance, in the car, on the bus at meal times etc. Treat their often quirky questions about God, global warming, and their favourite football team with consideration and try and have a real conversation that stretches their thinking.     Read more…..

Does Jet Lag help you live to 100

Jet lag does you no favours in your quest to live to 100, but neither does it do any harm, as long as you take note of the following:

If your journey is North or South, then no need to worry, you wont get Jet Lag.

You only get Jet Lag if you are travelling East or West.i3

Even then I have found that travelling West is better than travelling East.

Should we worry too much about Jet Lag? Depends on the length of the journey. If the flight is 4 hours or less then there will only be a slight adjustment to make. I find with these shorter journeys it is more the getting up extra early for the flight that zombiefies me at the end of the journey.

Now what about those longer journeys, what can we do to stop the dreaded jet lag?

Live to 100 and see the world! That’s going to involve jet lag!

Well, if it is a round the world trip then arrange to fly westwards all the time. That way you will arrive earlier as far as local time goes and you will feel less stressed.

When you have little or no choice and have to fly eastwards then this is what I suggest.

Be determined that you will enjoy the trip and arrive relaxed at the airport. Start telling your body a few days in advance that it is going to have an exciting journey and it will enjoy it.

So that may sound silly but the mind will take it on board and it is the mind that controls the body, if you tell it to.

As far as more practical things go…

As soon as the plane takes off adjust your wristwatch to the local time of your destination. This is critical as it gives the mind and body time to adjust itself and when you get off the plane you will be expecting the time to be as your wristwatch tells it.

Sure you may still feel stiff and groggy, after all you have had the drone of jet engines in your ears for the last umpteen hours.

What else can you do? Skip caffeine containing beverages – coffee, tea, cola. They will make you feel more tired and depressed, and may slow down the resetting of your body clock.

Get some exercise. Walk around the plane.

Limit your imbibing to a single glass of wine with the meal. It can help you relax or sleep on a night flight. Also, eat moderately.

Now here is something controversial:

Once you get to your destination, dive straight into the activities you are planning to do. I know a lot of pundits say you should rest and take days to adjust. Well this just does not wash with me. I believe in getting on with life and getting the winging body to come along with me. It quickly realises that it has no choice and responds magnificently.

If you have any health problems, discuss this with your doctor before going on the journey.

So to sum up;

Try travelling North/South.

Cant do that then try just going West.

When travelling East.

Be positive, reset your wristwatch, dive straight in on arrival.

So our quest to live to 100 and have fun continues.

Unexpected peril of house moving

What is the one thing you most unlikely to consider when moving house?

How about identity theft.

You have contacted all your friends and acquaintances told all the business where you have accounts, then moved out and let an unknown person take over your old address.

So a lot of people know you are moving and that means a lot of people will be changing their data bases and putting in new information.

This is the time when errors can occur.

If say you are moving to 241 High Street and your new address is put in as 214 High Street, how long will it be before you discover the error?

Most times there is no problem, still that’s no reason to be complacent. Especially when you bear in mind that for the next few months your credit card bill and your bank account fill be all over the place as non routine payments, debits and credits related to moving house all come and go.

This is the most critical time to study all the financial statements that you receive.

At the very slightest hint that something seems not quite right, contact that operation and query it, try first the telephone, if you cant get through, get more suspicious, send an email plus a letter (this will also give you written backup if the situation deteriorates).

Most cases there will be a simple explanation for an unexpected payment, but check it out any way.

Correspondence that you receive on a regular basis should arrive at your new address at roughly the same time, if it doesn’t then telephone to check that its been sent to the new correct address.

How does identity theft work?

It’s a crime which a person or group of people use an individuals personal information.

Like telephone number, name, phone card, credit card and social security number.

It is done without your knowledge for criminal acts. The acts typically range from financial fraud or purchasing consumer goods by using their credit.

This will leave you to pay the bill unless you can prove it was not you that got the credit.

Typically, until you look on your credit report or try to get loans, you will not know anything is
wrong.

Although a serious crime, thieves, once they have the information, will commit at least eight
different crimes in the victim’s name.

* make purchases or order goods without the intention to pay
* apply for credit
* open bank accounts
* apply for loans
* apply for government benefits
* obtain cable or utility services using the another person’s (victim) name
* forge checks or bank drafts
* use victim’s accounts to obtain money through wire transfers using the victim’s account
* and other similar acts of fraud.

Identity theft doesn’t just apply toward individuals but also businesses… this is especially true
for those of medium and limited businesses. It happens when a person applies for goods under
a business’ name.

You do need to be active in not becoming an identity theft victim and make sure that all private
documents and data are protected and not given into the wrong hands. Only through these
steps can we stop ourselves from being a victim. It is important people stop the thieves before
they strike.

Despite any prevention measures we may take, there is no absolute way to stop from becoming a
victim to identity theft.

Yet, there are measures that can stop the crime from getting worse.

It really just means keeping a constant eye on your credit report. Common sense and your instincts
will help tell you if something is going off kilter.

When you take these issues into consideration, it does make it much harder for ID thieves to get
past the barriers you put into place. You won’t be a victim if you take necessary precautions.

Remember thieves do not want to work hard to get information. They do not like to work hard at all.

If you make it hard for them to get credit or information, then it makes it harder for them to make you a victim so they move on to another person who may have a more relaxed level of protection.

Will BMI help you Live to 100?

How fat is too fat?

A large new government-funded study found that being even a bit overweight can increase your risk of death from heart disease, stroke or cancer.

Research has shown that healthy women who had never smoked and who were overweight were 13 percent more likely to die during the study follow-up period than those with a BMI between 22.5 and 24.9.

Women categorized as obese or severely obese (BMI of 30.0 to 34.9) had a dramatically higher risk of death, compared with a BMI of 22.5 to 24.9. Overall for men and women combined, for every five unit increase in BMI, the researchers observed a 31 percent increase in risk of death.

So if you want to healthily live to 100 what should your ideal weight be?

After analysing data on 1.46 million mostly white, non-Hispanic adults who participated in 19 long-term studies, a BMI (or body mass index, a ratio of height and weight that determines overweight and obesity) between 20.0 and 24.9 was associated with the lowest risk of death in healthy non-smoking adults.

Check your BMI here http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx

Whether you want to live longer and healthier or you want to address a specific health concern, building a good healthy natural foundation is essential. Just like you cannot expect to get good results from patching a roof on a building with a shaky foundation, the same is true of your body.

Compared to no physical activity even light- to moderate intensity activities of daily living, e.g. housework, gardening, stair climbing, walking and bicycling for transportation, can help extend your life expectancy four percent.

And with moderate-intensity leisure activities (e.g. Nordic walking, hiking, social dance) the increase can be to six percent.

Vigorous-intensity aerobic activity or sports (e.g. jogging, bicycling (>10 miles per hour), tennis, ball sport), the increase in life expectancy could be up to nine

What we eat affects our BMI and our fitness, so to build your own healthy natural foundation, begin replacing bad habits with good ones and take healthy measures such as these:

Avoid processed sugar as much as possible. According to the WHO, refined sugar is the number one cause of illness in the world. Likewise avoid artificial sweeteners.

Avoid excessive alcohol. A glass or two of wine is OK and so is a beer or two (though wine is healthiest).

Avoid cigarettes and tobacco products. Likewise avoid excessive caffeine.

Avoid cell phone use and avoid prolonged exposure to electrical and microwave radiation.

Include regular physical activity. Healthy exercise need not be strenuous – moderate is just fine. The key is “regular.”

Eliminate stress as much as possible in your life – it is indeed the “silent killer”.

Avoid stressful people and situations. Take time out to “smell the roses” on a regular basis.

Once you have built a healthy foundation, specific problems and concerns can be addressed with much greater chance of success to live to 100 whist staying in good health.

Curated from http://www.healthiertalk.com/building-foundation-better-health-and-longevity-4781
http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/03/whats-the-ideal-bmi-for-longevity/
http://www.fightaging.org/archives/2011/10/proactively-adjusting-your-own-mortality-risk.php

Grandchildren can help you live to 100

Being with young people will help keep you young. So a good place to start is with your own grandchildren.

Obviously this is a lot easier if you live near to them. You can then spread out your time with them and develop a easy going non forced approach, but don’t get into any boring routines like dragging them along to the shops.

Instead be interested in what your grandchildren do, attend their school plays, sporting events, band or choral concerts and other special activities if at all possible.

Give the gift of time. Whether you live far away or next door, your time will be the most important gift you can impart to your grandchild.

If your child is a new parent they will really appreciate you, setting up times to take your grandchild overnight or for the weekend. A toy might be long forgotten, but the relationship you build with your grandchild and the memories you create will last a lifetime.

As they get older, whether they live in walking distance of your home or far far away, do try and arrange for them to stay overnight with you, sure, when you hand them back you will be exhausted but the more you get involved with them the happier you all will be with and around each other.

When you are with them, spend some time sitting and reading. There is no better way to share quality time than by reading to them, whether it be their school reading exercises or a fun book.

To be really cool take them camping! Camping at our age, sure why not I still do it and hope to still be doing when I’m 100. After all if you want to live to 100 and still enjoy it then keep on doing fun things.

Now whilst we don’t want to get into competition with the other grandparents, you do need to do what you can to have grandchildren excited at the thought of visiting you.

Be interested in what your grandchildren do.

Include your grandchildren in your activities. Children appreciate the ability to help. You need to remember to be patient with them, especially when their help means you’ll be doing more work later.

Maintain a cheerful, loving attitude. Very few children pick the grumpy grandparent as their favourite. You need to be able to treat your grandchildren with love even when you must discipline them. Encourage grandchildren and nurture your relationship with them.

Have fun with them, take them to the cinema to see films they like, you will surprise yourself by finding you like them as well.

A walk with them is always great even if they get tired halfway round, they will soon be back to full speed especially if you find a park with swings and slides.

Thinking young will help you feel young and feeling young will help you live to 100.

Scare stories about living to 100

Probably most of us wanting to live to 100, worry more about developing Alzheimer’s than anything else.

Yet only somewhere in the region of 5-7% of us will develop it. Put another way this means that of those living beyond 65 there will be about 94% that will not get Alzheimer’s.

Now I do very much agree that for those who do develop it and their relatives it is devastating.

However I hope this puts it into perspective.

Having senior moments does not by default mean that there is something mentally wrong with us.

Even youngsters in their 40′s claim to have them. A busy office worker on his way home, and forgetting to stop at a shop for milk or bread, may well tell his dearly beloved that he had a senior moment.

But what really happened was his mind was still switched on to work. But there was no way he would be so stupid as to tell his wife that he was not thinking of her whilst on his way home!

There are many strategies you can use to keep your memory active and effective.
The most important is to follow the advice of this handy little phrase used by cognitive psychologists : “If you don’t encode, you can’t retrieve.”

The importance of this advice is demonstrated by asking people to choose the correct picture of a penny from among a display of nine or ten that look almost identical.

The idea is that as you use pennies all the time, you should be able to recognize the correct combination of profiles, Latin words, placement of the “one cent” and so on.

However, hardly anyone even mental gymnasts in their 20s can make the correct choice because hardly anyone actually bothers to stare and then memorize the front and back of this common object.

Because many mid-life and older adults lead complicated and busy lives, our minds are often going in many directions at once.

Multi-tasking not only can lead airline pilots to miss their destination, but can also destroy our ability to remember. If you want to put your memory to maximum effectiveness, try mono-tasking.

Did you leave an important document at home that you needed to bring with you?
Chances are you put the document somewhere it shouldn’t have been at home because you were thinking about something else at the time, or carrying up the laundry while holding it, or thinking about what you’re going to cook for dinner.

If you actually stopped doing three things at once and thought about putting the document in your briefcase, there is a very good chance it would have made it with you to work rather than languishing at the bottom of your sock drawer.

You might be thinking that all this is very interesting, but what does it have to do with enjoying life to 100?

Rowe and Kahn, who popularized the term “successful ageing,” placed cognitive functioning front and centre in the equation for achieving a fulfilled and satisfying later life.

Being able to use your mind and keeping it active will help you feel more mentally competent and so contribute to your overall well-being. You can’t use your mind to maximum advantage if you are convinced that it is decaying because once you believe it is gone, it will be gone.

The true danger of the senior moment lies in the phenomenon known as stereotype threat, a term that psychologist Claude Steele invented, and it provides brilliant insight into why it is that some people do not perform to their maximum potential.

When you are in a testing situation and you’ve been made aware of some attribute about yourself relevant to that situation, you may fall victim to this pernicious kind of negativity.

Your performance will deteriorate the more you believe in that stereotype and the more you are made aware of it.

In other words, thinking that you’re having a senior moment may cause you to have that senior moment.

But even if you do the odds are against it being Alzheimer’s.

Keep up your faith in your mental abilities, and your mental abilities will continue to serve you long and well.

Dining Alone on Holiday

Dining alone

There are times when we are away from home that we are alone and hungry, not necessarily a problem if it’s a day trip. But if we are on vacation we still want it to be a pleasurable experience.

living to 100But try not to feel awkward dining alone at an upmarket restaurant with tables set for twos and fours.

Decide in advance if you can as to; do you want to sit at the bar, right by a window with a view , near the performer or whatever.

The when you arrive smile and ask for a seat at the the place of your choice. Don’t worry, they want to serve you and are happy you came. When the waiter brings the menu you can mention (if you wish) that you are quite happy to share the table with another lone diner. When on holiday be adventurous!

You know, the benefits of dining alone mean you can order just what you want, take as long as you like eating, read between courses, listen in on other peoples conversations…

But there is another way to dine alone yet still be part of a crowd.

I first came across it in Marrakesh instead of lots of small tables there were three very long ones and you simply found a space and sat down. So as it filled up you would have neighbours to the right, left and across the table. And as you were all strangers and probably on holiday it was easy to start conversations.

Long tables have become increasingly popular for both singles and couples who are seeking the sense of spontaneous conviviality often absent in a post 9/11 world. I have now seen them in lots of European cities. The tables are usually made of appealing natural materials, like stone or recycled woods, and can accommodate 10-30 individuals or more, offering a sense of instant community among strangers.

The tables are ideal social lubricants not only for singles, who want some company or who don’t want to feel singled out when they eat alone, but also for large groups and couples who want to eat and mingle with new people. If you’re a lone traveller, it can be a way to meet other travellers (and in some cases locals) with no obligation beyond the meal. Your options include the person on either side of you, across the table, or the small group around you.

But whatever, do go out with the full intention of enjoying yourself.

Exude Confidence. Stride up to the host or hostess and proudly request your table. Never shrug or say, “just me” as though you’re apologizing. It takes guts to eat alone, and you should command the respect you deserve.

Maybe you don’t want to sit reading a book between courses, so choose an eatery with a TV showing sport. Even if you’re not terribly into sports, if there’s a game playing, become a fan for the evening. You’ll be surprised how an entranced gaze up at the screen now and then will give you a sense of purpose, as will a well-timed groan of defeat or hearty fist-pumping “Yes!”

Life is too short even for us planning to live to 100 to waste an opportunity, so remember to relax, enjoy yourself, and focus on the positives of solo dining. Just think: There will be no quibbling over who pays, no awkward pauses, and no drawn-out discussions about your companion’s relationship or work problems. You really can be your own best dinner date.

Curated with help from Irene: S. Levine & SingleEdition.